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death and dying in LTC


A Funeral, Dementia, and the Mercy of Forgetting
A woman with advanced dementia is told—again and again—that her son has died. Each time, the grief is fresh. A reflection on memory, mercy, and when silence is the kinder choice.
Carol Lindsay
Feb 132 min read


The empty chair
In most nursing homes, death is not acknowledged. There is no announcement, no shared moment, no ritual of remembrance. One day a chair is occupied; the next day it is empty. Residents notice. They count how many friends have sat there before. They wait through breakfast, then lunch, then ask the front desk. Silence does not spare them grief—it leaves them to carry it alone, doing the math in their own heads and wondering, quietly, if anyone will notice when they are gone.
Carol Lindsay
Jan 43 min read
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